Yesterday I discovered Ted Talks. I watched Simon Sinek describe the attributes of a great leader and something just struck a cord with me. Here is the link:
The concept of presenting to the world and the people around you from the inside out is the part of this talk that really resonated with me. This world is harsh and we get hurt. We all start off as vulnerable and through our years and our circumstances we begin to wrap layer after layer of protection until we are approaching the world from the outside while we desperately protect our inside. Hell, some of us even forget that we have an inside.
Simon closes this talk by saying that Martin Luther King Jr. gave the “I have a dream” speech not the “I have a plan” speech. Somewhere along the way we begin to lose sight of our dreams and operate solely on our plans. Great leaders stay in touch with their dreams, their why’s, their core. They know and share their plan based on something bigger – they sell what they stand for not what they plan for.
As I processed this information I came to the conclusion that great leaders have another trait that Simon didn’t mention – the trait of courage. It takes an amazing amount of courage to commune with others based on our core. This is not a method for the faint of heart. When we show others our “Why” we open ourselves up to criticism directed at the center of who we are. The only way to withstand that kind of vulnerability is an unshakeable belief that what you are at your core is worthy.
You can watch this video and apply it strictly to your business, company or professional life but I want to apply it to who I am every day. I gravitate toward strong folk who are in touch with who they are and most of them can articulate their “why”. They are stronger because they know the dream that fuels the plan. They live from the inside out.
Our plans are a joke. Things don’t work out the way we mapped. Divorces happen. Jobs fall through. Careers change. Death snatches. Accidents throw curve balls. Health is fleeting. When we live our lives based on the plans for the above we become cynical and reactionary but we don’t have to stay that way.
I have some dreams. A dream to raise amazing strong women who know their worth, are able to truly love, and have the courage to be vulnerable. A dream that I can show at least a sliver of Christ’s love to those who I am eyeball to eyeball with every day. A dream to inspire real life and true contentment by appreciating all the little blessings gifted to me everyday. These dreams are the “whys” of my behavior. I want to live from the inside out. To base my actions on who I am at the core of me.
Anybody can be a great leader – we just have to have the courage to share our dreams.